Compliments
Try this sometime.
I know that compliments are awesome and that they make someone feel better, but there is a bit of a catch to it, and that comes from how you administer one and when.
You need to say one at an unexpected time, because like an attack from an opposing army that is expecting it, it doesn't work so well if at all if it is premeditated. *cue rolling eyes from the recipient* You also need to to be honest about the comment and not over do it. People know when you are pushing it and aren't oblivious to overwhelming compliments. In fact they do the opposite and normally make the person mad. So instead of doing that, be honest like the person below...
(A couple shopping together, you can guess who is who, real story)
person 1: Do you think I should try this dress on?
person 2: Yeah it looks good on the rack...
person 1: (after changing and a bit unsure) What do you think?
person 2: Well it looked good on the rack..
person 1: (no response, just a stare. . .) okay, remind me to never go shopping with you again.
I know this wasn't the response that person 1 was looking for but it's a helluva a lot better then being a liar, plus you don't feel bad afterwards, because it was the truth. Person 1 will understand and thank you for not letting them purchase a green spotted dress with purple colors mixed in.
What I am getting at is simple though. Give compliments when they should be given. You need to recognize people if you're a manager and say "thanks", I mean it's not very hard and it means alot to your co-worker. You create a better work place and they feel appreciated, and you better believe they will remember. Give compliments that are meaningful and show you actually care, people remember these for years on end if they are given with true sincerity and mean alot when you give them to the people who are close to you.
I don't want to get all sappy and crap, because I am not good at it, but you get the point. And that's be awesome and make other people feel awesome with you. That way you can create an awesome clan and rule the world..! (falls off soapbox)
Da_mn I am starting to sound all 'self help-ish', hahaha.. I need to get back to my normal ways, talk to you later...
Posted in: compliments, happiness, smiling, try on Monday, March 16, 2009 at at 10:29 AM
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